In the last few months I have a great amount of exposure to people in different situations. I have seen reactive and proactive behavior in force. Most people are reactive, but hey most people are just like that. So with that I want to get a few things off my chest about what motivates a person. At a basic level people want to be left to their own devices. It seems that most people would be content with sitting on their couch, munching some chips, drinking pop, and having their brains melted away by day time TV. This also shows in the physicality of people too. I mean really there are not that many inactive people that can pull off spandex.
So what motivates you? What gets you moving? What gets your ass off the couch and into the mix? What makes you want to actually participate in life, rather then watch it pass you by? Like I said most people are reactive. So they get off the couch because something makes them. They have to go to work. Somebody comes over. Somebody ask them to do something. Proactive people think ahead and say things like I want to go for a hike, and they plan it out and go. The see problems ahead of time and put actions in place to prevent further damage, or to prevent them all together. I look at the two trains of thought as who is attacking issues and who is defending issues.
So with my brain wired that way I look at all the crap going on in peoples life, and see how and why they react the way they do. For example I have recently called several people out. I have given them the spot light they asked for, I just have not used the light they wanted me to use. In essence I did not do the model thing and show their good side. I have no tolerance for ass clowns that disrupt the positive flow in my community or use subtle tricks to try and harm my friends. With that I have seen a large amount of reaction, and only two examples of proactive behavior.
The thing I observed the most though, I found humorous. It violated the first rule of dating in my book. Rule number one, don't stick your dick in crazy. Men are motivated by sex. Ugly men will do what they can to get it, even violate rule number one. What I mean by this is that a few of the people I called to the mat are of the XX chromosome variety. That would be the female genetic make up, of the species. In doing this though the males of the species have come to their defense in droves. Yes part of it is because we as men have a tendency to seem to think all the women in the world need our protection.
I have found that the women that are worth my protection rarely need it. I have also found that those that scream the loudest to defend those that are unworthy, typically do so because its a good chance they might be seen in a favorable light. You have some crazy chica with severe daddy issues, you can increase your odds of of getting your bean wet if you cater to those issues. Trouble is they are crazy, and most times their inner ugly spills over to their exterior. So if not only are you humping a hose beast (if they decide to bang you out of reward or pity) but you are also contaminating your penis with crazy. Crazy likes to stick to your penis too. Condoms don't ward off crazy.
Now in this these guys show a desperation that does not warrant a healthy self esteem. They lower the standard for themselves and claim the any port in a storm argument. TO me that is the issue. Women are not as picky as men with the physical. While I am not going to say that they are not superficial at times, they are less so then men typically are. That being said, those same guys could find them spending more time with suitable mates, if they exhibited better judgement. Its shows confidence and the ability to be a better man.
Your heart and mind make you more sexy. Seriously look around and you will see some nasty snaggle tooth guys with some hotties. Well either that guy has some money and those ladies are superficial gold diggers, or that guy brings a number of other things to the table. I was told more then once in life that women find confidence attractive. Cockiness is a turn off, and I can see that, since cocky is really another way of saying you have poor self esteem and hide it behind bullshit deeds. Confidence is knowing yourself, it is strength in all senses of of the word. Real women that are straight want to be be with a guy, not a woman, or they would be lesbians. Nothing wrong with that, but if you are a straight guy looking for a straight girl, you might want to understand your market. I am told that even some lesbian women are attracted to those traits in women too.
So if you have a crazy psycho hose beast chick that will sleep with you, and you have no self esteem either, you need to think about how much she is slumming. So are you really that low on the food chain that you would be treated that way and have to settle or be settled for? Or are you going to start thinking with the higher head and actually find happiness outside of a few seconds of physical pleasure? What drives you? What motivates you to be that white knight?
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Monday, September 12, 2011
Character
We often refer to some words so often that we forget their meaning. We over use them, or use them in the wrong content. For example "hero". So many people label people their hero's for one reason or another and forget to thing about the definition. Admiration alone does not a hero make. Today though I want to break down another word, character. What is it exactly?
Character is defined as 1.the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing. 2.one such feature or trait; characteristic. 3.moral or ethical quality: a man of fine, honorable character. 4.qualities of honesty, courage, or the like; integrity: It takes character to face up to a bully. 5.reputation: a stain on one's character.
This means to me that a persons character is not defined by their words, but their actions. You can justify saying someone does or does not have character, or define their character in a negative light. I know people say I have a big mouth, but I would like to think I have the character to back up the words I spit out. Others show a weak character by slinging accusations and falsehoods to feed their own personal need for attention.
You know many people talk about the need for forgiveness. I say screw that. Forgiveness is something you can ask for when you are unwilling or unable to stand up and be responsible for your actions. A person of character need not ask for forgiveness, they just make amends if they need to. If you have a strong enough character then you should not be committing acts that would require either to begin with.
If the people around you understand your character enough, they also understand the intent behind your deeds and words. This is when you hear things like "no apology needed." Be true to yourself, in action and in speech and you can say that you have strong character. Having strong enough character also means you don't need to say that about yourself either.
I have found that you can dress yourself in as much bullshit as you like, and through the funk of your clothing, people will see the true you beneath. Your character can and will be measured. That being said, if forgiveness does not run in my job description, you can bet your ass that judgement does too. If you are found lacking, then you will also not find yourself among my friends either. I would prefer to associate with people of character, because they challenge me to be better. This also prevents toxic crazy ass people from tainting my chi.
So save the characters for the sit coms. Save the drama for your mama. Ask yourself are you the person you would call a hero? Are you the person you would want your children to be? If so good on you, and you my friend have character.
Character is defined as 1.the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing. 2.one such feature or trait; characteristic. 3.moral or ethical quality: a man of fine, honorable character. 4.qualities of honesty, courage, or the like; integrity: It takes character to face up to a bully. 5.reputation: a stain on one's character.
This means to me that a persons character is not defined by their words, but their actions. You can justify saying someone does or does not have character, or define their character in a negative light. I know people say I have a big mouth, but I would like to think I have the character to back up the words I spit out. Others show a weak character by slinging accusations and falsehoods to feed their own personal need for attention.
You know many people talk about the need for forgiveness. I say screw that. Forgiveness is something you can ask for when you are unwilling or unable to stand up and be responsible for your actions. A person of character need not ask for forgiveness, they just make amends if they need to. If you have a strong enough character then you should not be committing acts that would require either to begin with.
If the people around you understand your character enough, they also understand the intent behind your deeds and words. This is when you hear things like "no apology needed." Be true to yourself, in action and in speech and you can say that you have strong character. Having strong enough character also means you don't need to say that about yourself either.
I have found that you can dress yourself in as much bullshit as you like, and through the funk of your clothing, people will see the true you beneath. Your character can and will be measured. That being said, if forgiveness does not run in my job description, you can bet your ass that judgement does too. If you are found lacking, then you will also not find yourself among my friends either. I would prefer to associate with people of character, because they challenge me to be better. This also prevents toxic crazy ass people from tainting my chi.
So save the characters for the sit coms. Save the drama for your mama. Ask yourself are you the person you would call a hero? Are you the person you would want your children to be? If so good on you, and you my friend have character.
Friday, September 9, 2011
Mirror, mirror,..
It is time for reflection. Why is that? Well if you have a pulse, have seen at least one newspaper, and have not been living under a rock or in the Westboro Baptist Church compound, then you know its been ten years. Most people can tell you what they were doing, and where they were. They can give you details, and how they perceived the planes flying into the towers, the pentagon, and that lonely field. Its been a decade since that fateful day that forever altered America.
I am taking this weekend to look back at what we as a people have done over the last decade, and what I have personally done over the last decade. The first thing I noticed being back in school is that vast majority of people joining the military right now are eighteen. This means that they where in the third grade probably watching CNN. Some of those kids that President Bush spent time reading too, are right now putting on a uniform for the first time. It has been that long.
I look at the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan in different lights now. I know what people think about them, at least the ones willing to share their opinion. Most feel it was an act of vengeance and greed. They miss the reality of the wars. The miss the reality of the world. Since we first put boots on the ground in Afghanistan we have destroyed the enemies capabilities to train future kamakazi pilots. The Taliban run government was a safe haven for extremist to train and recruit.
Yes as a soldier I was really happy to go over and get something back. I will admit a certain satisfaction knowing that people that meant us harm tasted at least a bit of that same fear. However this was not the mission. The mission was to remove the threat. To drastically reduced the ability of those that wish to do us harm, and to disrupt their organization in a way to ensure that another attack of that magnitude could happen in the United States again. Yet we focus on things that upset me. That is another issue all together though.
So in thinking about this, ask yourself how did you life change over a decade ago. How did you feel about September 11th? What did you do about those feelings during this long decade of struggle? What are you going to do to remember the events of that fateful day? What are your concerns for the future in that regard?
Even today I look to countries that harbor this level of idealism. I look at countries that offer the ability to train future terrorist. I see places like Somalia, Iran, and North Korea. I see the obvious places I would go to train subversive individuals, and where I could freely preach my rhetoric to the down trodden masses. I see this places and wonder how long before we cross those borders, or if we ever will. I wonder if we can ever really be safe, or safe-ish.
Are people always going to give into envy. Will they despise people for what they have when they have not? Will intolerance always exist not matter how places we go to remove their breeding grounds? Will we as a people continue to stand against oppression, or will we continue to be selective in that regard? What value would a country have to have to us, before we interfere with their internal politics in order to adjust them to a more favorable world view?
I wrestle with these ideas daily, standing by to go some where yet again, to enforce the safety of my country. I am all about free speech, but when that speech leads to the direct harm of those people I swore to protect, when do we step in and say diplomacy failed and start kicking nuts? How much is enough?
In this I try to honor those that have come before me. I try to think about those people just working to earn for their families, that found their day rife with chaos and pain. From those in the towers, or those masses that watched in horror and anger. To those people that decided to put on the uniform and go after those persons of evil. How many lives where forever changed.
Please think about this when you decide what you are going to do this weekend, and think of how many people would have wanted you to remember their death with a barbecue. Think about how many of them you will disrespect this weekend when you are showing no regard to your life, and those around you when you drink and drive. Think about those firemen that lost their life's when you are wasting your own on empty pursuits. Think about that soldier that died on foreign soil when you bitch about the things you don't have.
I think at the end of the day, this last decade thought me a few valuable lessons. Do not take what you have for granted, because it can all go away. Do not assume that because you have peace in your heart, that your neighbor does. You can judge a person by their deeds, and words rarely carry the resolve of action. Sacrifice is something that is given out of need not desire. I also realized that no matter how broken our system appears to be, it is still the best thing out there. I also know there is always hope. Tragedy is a stronger bond then promise. Evil does lurk in plain site, and when you cower from it, ignore it, or blow it off, it takes root in a life changing way.
So in that I ask that you reflect. Ask yourself what have you done, what can you do, to be a better you. In doing so you really honor those noble dead.
I am taking this weekend to look back at what we as a people have done over the last decade, and what I have personally done over the last decade. The first thing I noticed being back in school is that vast majority of people joining the military right now are eighteen. This means that they where in the third grade probably watching CNN. Some of those kids that President Bush spent time reading too, are right now putting on a uniform for the first time. It has been that long.
I look at the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan in different lights now. I know what people think about them, at least the ones willing to share their opinion. Most feel it was an act of vengeance and greed. They miss the reality of the wars. The miss the reality of the world. Since we first put boots on the ground in Afghanistan we have destroyed the enemies capabilities to train future kamakazi pilots. The Taliban run government was a safe haven for extremist to train and recruit.
Yes as a soldier I was really happy to go over and get something back. I will admit a certain satisfaction knowing that people that meant us harm tasted at least a bit of that same fear. However this was not the mission. The mission was to remove the threat. To drastically reduced the ability of those that wish to do us harm, and to disrupt their organization in a way to ensure that another attack of that magnitude could happen in the United States again. Yet we focus on things that upset me. That is another issue all together though.
So in thinking about this, ask yourself how did you life change over a decade ago. How did you feel about September 11th? What did you do about those feelings during this long decade of struggle? What are you going to do to remember the events of that fateful day? What are your concerns for the future in that regard?
Even today I look to countries that harbor this level of idealism. I look at countries that offer the ability to train future terrorist. I see places like Somalia, Iran, and North Korea. I see the obvious places I would go to train subversive individuals, and where I could freely preach my rhetoric to the down trodden masses. I see this places and wonder how long before we cross those borders, or if we ever will. I wonder if we can ever really be safe, or safe-ish.
Are people always going to give into envy. Will they despise people for what they have when they have not? Will intolerance always exist not matter how places we go to remove their breeding grounds? Will we as a people continue to stand against oppression, or will we continue to be selective in that regard? What value would a country have to have to us, before we interfere with their internal politics in order to adjust them to a more favorable world view?
I wrestle with these ideas daily, standing by to go some where yet again, to enforce the safety of my country. I am all about free speech, but when that speech leads to the direct harm of those people I swore to protect, when do we step in and say diplomacy failed and start kicking nuts? How much is enough?
In this I try to honor those that have come before me. I try to think about those people just working to earn for their families, that found their day rife with chaos and pain. From those in the towers, or those masses that watched in horror and anger. To those people that decided to put on the uniform and go after those persons of evil. How many lives where forever changed.
Please think about this when you decide what you are going to do this weekend, and think of how many people would have wanted you to remember their death with a barbecue. Think about how many of them you will disrespect this weekend when you are showing no regard to your life, and those around you when you drink and drive. Think about those firemen that lost their life's when you are wasting your own on empty pursuits. Think about that soldier that died on foreign soil when you bitch about the things you don't have.
I think at the end of the day, this last decade thought me a few valuable lessons. Do not take what you have for granted, because it can all go away. Do not assume that because you have peace in your heart, that your neighbor does. You can judge a person by their deeds, and words rarely carry the resolve of action. Sacrifice is something that is given out of need not desire. I also realized that no matter how broken our system appears to be, it is still the best thing out there. I also know there is always hope. Tragedy is a stronger bond then promise. Evil does lurk in plain site, and when you cower from it, ignore it, or blow it off, it takes root in a life changing way.
So in that I ask that you reflect. Ask yourself what have you done, what can you do, to be a better you. In doing so you really honor those noble dead.
Wednesday, September 7, 2011
And the sum of right and wrong is bull.
I once had a friend tell me that the road to social understanding was compromise. In politics one must find the middle ground and give something to get something. I can see that, but I also know that there are certain things that you should never compromise on. There are values out there that are universal, that we as individuals should hold higher then compromise. Truth, honor, and human dignity are part of that equation.
We as a people like to have our reality handed to us in thirty second sound bites. We like to resolve our conflicts in thirty minutes like a sit com. We do not like to burdened with those hard choices. We do not like to think about those hard questions. In 2008 the military lifted the ban of showing soldiers coming home in coffins draped in flags. Why was that a big deal? Well some say the public did not want to be burdened by body bags while they ate their dinner. The probable reality to all of this, is people really did not want to think about what that dead soldier meant to them. I mean really what impact did this young person, have on their life?
The first consideration to this, is that it would sway public opinion about the wars we are fighting. You know for the shallow spoon fed masses it sure would. To me it belittles what that military service member died for. We are in Iraq for a reason. You may not agree with it, but I can assure my reasons for being there are different then what you think they where all about. Same to those still in Afghanistan. Those in uniform are there for different reasons, and those reasons are pretty damn valid if they are willing to die for them.
Most have it in them to defend those principles that most others pay lip service to and rarely live by. To live honorably does not mean you you compromise your personal integrity because of how people will react to the results of your choices. You do what you say you are going to do. You give your word when you mean it, and you do not compromise that word. In a culture of compromise you don't get that. You look at the spin, and the effect of public opinion on things. Somethings are not popular, but they are right.
What I mean by this is a summed up in a story I recently watched. If you have not seen the Tillman story, watch it. You see soldiers torn between duty, and a promise they made to serve their country. You see that honor tainted by men that tainted their own honor, in order to serve themselves or selfish intentions of grandeur. Pat Tillman served as a Ranger. He fought in a war he didn't believe in, because he gave his word and said he would. He died in a war he did believe in and in an attempt to turn him into a public recruiting tool, he was dishonored. You saw the lines of those that knew what honor was, and those more motivated by personal ambition.
They compromised their personal honor and integrity to do what they felt was good for the cause or country. How ever by lying they just weakened the cause and showed the decay of politics. No less then twelve stars lied directly to congress, and congress took it, because it was easier to sweep it under the rug. If you put make up on a black eye, you are not fooling anybody but yourself.
I think what I would like to see is someone, anyone in politics fuck up and admit it. Not the typical I am sorry speech they give. Those are more them sorry they got caught. I am sure that you could ask them with some truth serum, and they would tell you would they would still do what ever thing they did, if they knew they could get away with it. This is the issue. Smart people want the truth, and in the truth there can be no compromise. It has to be unflinching.
Compromise that works is on some of the smaller day to day things. Its something that works well in business, and to narrow it down further, it is good when things are for sale. Services, goods, or materials can be brought up in compromise. However I will state clearly that my honor and integrity are not, and have never been for sale. Anyone that would sell those ideals can not and should not be leaders of us. They should not be our voice in government.
I do not care if you are Democrat, Republican, or some other party you choose to affiliate with, there are some principles that do not call for compromise. Some things are black and white, and actions speak louder then words. I would offer the same advice to politicians that I offer to my junior soldiers. If you do not want to be caught doing something, then perhaps you shouldn't do it. If you can't say something without thought you probably need to think if its worth saying in the first place. If you would not want something done to you, then its probably something you don't want to do to somebody else. There are times where you will have to take a stand though, and if you do make sure both your feet are planted and you are ready to accept the outcome win or lose. If you are not sure you are willing to face the consequences of the lose, it might not be worth fighting over.
With that off my chest, I say rest in peace Pat Tillman. Regardless of how you died you are still my fucking hero. You are my hero not because of how you died, but because of how you lived. Those of you that tried to use his death to support your own cause, shame on you assholes. You obviously have no idea what put him in harms way in the first place. I am not going to pretend to have known the guy, but I can measure him by his deeds and those the legacy of love he left behind. For that I say thank you Dannie Tillman for being brave enough to share your sons, your life, and your heart with the world. Pat Sr thank you as well for doing a fine job in raising some fine men by being a great example to them.
We as a people like to have our reality handed to us in thirty second sound bites. We like to resolve our conflicts in thirty minutes like a sit com. We do not like to burdened with those hard choices. We do not like to think about those hard questions. In 2008 the military lifted the ban of showing soldiers coming home in coffins draped in flags. Why was that a big deal? Well some say the public did not want to be burdened by body bags while they ate their dinner. The probable reality to all of this, is people really did not want to think about what that dead soldier meant to them. I mean really what impact did this young person, have on their life?
The first consideration to this, is that it would sway public opinion about the wars we are fighting. You know for the shallow spoon fed masses it sure would. To me it belittles what that military service member died for. We are in Iraq for a reason. You may not agree with it, but I can assure my reasons for being there are different then what you think they where all about. Same to those still in Afghanistan. Those in uniform are there for different reasons, and those reasons are pretty damn valid if they are willing to die for them.
Most have it in them to defend those principles that most others pay lip service to and rarely live by. To live honorably does not mean you you compromise your personal integrity because of how people will react to the results of your choices. You do what you say you are going to do. You give your word when you mean it, and you do not compromise that word. In a culture of compromise you don't get that. You look at the spin, and the effect of public opinion on things. Somethings are not popular, but they are right.
What I mean by this is a summed up in a story I recently watched. If you have not seen the Tillman story, watch it. You see soldiers torn between duty, and a promise they made to serve their country. You see that honor tainted by men that tainted their own honor, in order to serve themselves or selfish intentions of grandeur. Pat Tillman served as a Ranger. He fought in a war he didn't believe in, because he gave his word and said he would. He died in a war he did believe in and in an attempt to turn him into a public recruiting tool, he was dishonored. You saw the lines of those that knew what honor was, and those more motivated by personal ambition.
They compromised their personal honor and integrity to do what they felt was good for the cause or country. How ever by lying they just weakened the cause and showed the decay of politics. No less then twelve stars lied directly to congress, and congress took it, because it was easier to sweep it under the rug. If you put make up on a black eye, you are not fooling anybody but yourself.
I think what I would like to see is someone, anyone in politics fuck up and admit it. Not the typical I am sorry speech they give. Those are more them sorry they got caught. I am sure that you could ask them with some truth serum, and they would tell you would they would still do what ever thing they did, if they knew they could get away with it. This is the issue. Smart people want the truth, and in the truth there can be no compromise. It has to be unflinching.
Compromise that works is on some of the smaller day to day things. Its something that works well in business, and to narrow it down further, it is good when things are for sale. Services, goods, or materials can be brought up in compromise. However I will state clearly that my honor and integrity are not, and have never been for sale. Anyone that would sell those ideals can not and should not be leaders of us. They should not be our voice in government.
I do not care if you are Democrat, Republican, or some other party you choose to affiliate with, there are some principles that do not call for compromise. Some things are black and white, and actions speak louder then words. I would offer the same advice to politicians that I offer to my junior soldiers. If you do not want to be caught doing something, then perhaps you shouldn't do it. If you can't say something without thought you probably need to think if its worth saying in the first place. If you would not want something done to you, then its probably something you don't want to do to somebody else. There are times where you will have to take a stand though, and if you do make sure both your feet are planted and you are ready to accept the outcome win or lose. If you are not sure you are willing to face the consequences of the lose, it might not be worth fighting over.
With that off my chest, I say rest in peace Pat Tillman. Regardless of how you died you are still my fucking hero. You are my hero not because of how you died, but because of how you lived. Those of you that tried to use his death to support your own cause, shame on you assholes. You obviously have no idea what put him in harms way in the first place. I am not going to pretend to have known the guy, but I can measure him by his deeds and those the legacy of love he left behind. For that I say thank you Dannie Tillman for being brave enough to share your sons, your life, and your heart with the world. Pat Sr thank you as well for doing a fine job in raising some fine men by being a great example to them.
Tuesday, September 6, 2011
Burn burn let that mutha effer burn.
You know some people tell me that I will mellow with age. Well I am aging and I am not feeling anymore mellow. I am actually going to go with the opposite. I find myself disagreeing with people, and being much more vocal about it. My patience slides away with each passing year. This is not how my elders told me it was going to be. I am supposed to settle down and start focusing on a quiet retirement in a house with a white picket fence right?
I am glad that is not me though, and I am glad my inner rebellion in blossoming later in life when I can really enjoy it. As a kid you rebel because your hormones and instinct tell you too. In this phase of life my rebel has a stronger flavor of common sense and is flavored with the deep smoky flavor of vengeance.
It also has a different purpose. This is not dissidence for the sake of dissidence, but rather more thought out. I am actually mad about things I have been a part of, have seen, or done. This is not me just looking for ways to tell me dad he sucks.
The only trouble with this, is that I can see other people that never grew the fuck up, still in that teenage pimple faced rebellion. Even as they approach the sunset years they still rebel because of what they don't have, feel they deserve, and lash out at the world because its not fair. Well the world is not fair. People will always have it better then you if you are a self centered shit bag. So take the rose colored glasses off or move your rebellion out of my sight. You make me want to hit you with something sharp and heavy.
There are many things that are wrong with the world. The difference in this rebellion though, is that I do not believe in forgiveness. I believe in proof. So you can't just say forgive me, even if you mean it, you have to show me you are better. That takes time, so you better get to work, I am not getting any younger. Stand up for what you believe in, and find some damn principles to live by. If you can't just stay away from me, for your own safety. Other then that, have a nice day.
I am glad that is not me though, and I am glad my inner rebellion in blossoming later in life when I can really enjoy it. As a kid you rebel because your hormones and instinct tell you too. In this phase of life my rebel has a stronger flavor of common sense and is flavored with the deep smoky flavor of vengeance.
It also has a different purpose. This is not dissidence for the sake of dissidence, but rather more thought out. I am actually mad about things I have been a part of, have seen, or done. This is not me just looking for ways to tell me dad he sucks.
The only trouble with this, is that I can see other people that never grew the fuck up, still in that teenage pimple faced rebellion. Even as they approach the sunset years they still rebel because of what they don't have, feel they deserve, and lash out at the world because its not fair. Well the world is not fair. People will always have it better then you if you are a self centered shit bag. So take the rose colored glasses off or move your rebellion out of my sight. You make me want to hit you with something sharp and heavy.
There are many things that are wrong with the world. The difference in this rebellion though, is that I do not believe in forgiveness. I believe in proof. So you can't just say forgive me, even if you mean it, you have to show me you are better. That takes time, so you better get to work, I am not getting any younger. Stand up for what you believe in, and find some damn principles to live by. If you can't just stay away from me, for your own safety. Other then that, have a nice day.
Friday, September 2, 2011
I will take mine with a dream and sugar
I am going to say I have mixed feelings about Starbucks over the years. I love coffee. I can down a shot of espresso with or with out the steamed milk. I don't like their coffee though. I think they over roast their beans, and do things that take the flavor out of coffee. They did bring good coffee out of the country clubs and put it in the faces of the average Joe. So Joe now knows what a cup of Joe is. No the chicory filled cans they get at the grocery store.
They may put a Starbucks on every corner, and saturate the market. They may infiltrate every neighborhood like a plague of mass marketing, and clog up traffic with the morning zombies looking to get into the drive-thru for their fix. They do pay their employees a fair wage, and from what I understand their insurance is not the bad.
So like I said it is a love hate relationship full of mixed feelings. I got something in my email today though that is moving that gauge closer to support. I a note from the CEO of Starbucks, a Mister Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks. It actually made me realize that its not only the little guy that our current politics is threatening. We are not alone being fed up with the bullshit in Washington and city halls across the country.
Read it here. Outstanding! Now I am thinking I am gonna be shopping a Starbucks a lot more now. I support this, and will transfer that support by supporting their business.
They may put a Starbucks on every corner, and saturate the market. They may infiltrate every neighborhood like a plague of mass marketing, and clog up traffic with the morning zombies looking to get into the drive-thru for their fix. They do pay their employees a fair wage, and from what I understand their insurance is not the bad.
So like I said it is a love hate relationship full of mixed feelings. I got something in my email today though that is moving that gauge closer to support. I a note from the CEO of Starbucks, a Mister Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks. It actually made me realize that its not only the little guy that our current politics is threatening. We are not alone being fed up with the bullshit in Washington and city halls across the country.
Read it here. Outstanding! Now I am thinking I am gonna be shopping a Starbucks a lot more now. I support this, and will transfer that support by supporting their business.
Thursday, September 1, 2011
whine whine every where and not a drop to think
So today its kind of hard to write because I have so much stuff floating in my head. There is so much going on and my A.D.D. is really the only thing keeping me from stabbing random strangers for fun and entertainment. School has decided that since we have a Holiday weekend ahead of us, and we are losing a day, that we would not want to spend that time doing something fun with our family and friends. The figured since we are paying for this education that we might as well get our monies worth. So I have a few assignments I will need to finish before the weekend is out. No worries I am a motivated disciplined mo fo, so I will complete then most likely before Friday ends. If for no other reason that I can do fun shit all weekend.
That being out of the way, I do have a topic. I just told you that stuff so when you see how this all comes out, you will understand my frame of mind and hopefully forgive me for the lack of a proof read. So I am going to hit with a rough stream of words, and see what sticks. If that doesn't work for you, well move the fuck on.
I just want to make it clear that whining is like worrying. It does nothing for you, except make you look like a bitch. Sure things suck. If they things didn't suck we would not have anything to compare the good things too. I am going too go out on a limb here and say that whining can serve a purpose of attracting attention to an issue, but its just whining if that is all you are doing. Pity parties are shitty parties. You can bitch, bitching means you are complaining about something and are offer to resolve it. Whining you are looking for others to either give you attention, sympathy, or resolve it for you.
Now I love fixing the problems that people whine about. Ninety nine point nine percent of the time they do not like it when I fix it either. If you are bitching about your car, I give you a bus schedule. If you complain about being hungry I tell you where the homeless shelter is. You complain about not having a love life, I had you a mirror, a scale, or a copy of your whiny ass on tape. Some people get all three.
Whiners typically end up alone. Like liars they learn to make friends quickly though. So they may deceive you at first. Whiners also tend to gaggle. You will see them roam the streets in packs, because nobody else wants to hang with their stupid emo asses. Seriously if life is that bad, kill yourself and let the rest of us move the fuck on. If you want everybody to do everything for you then kill yourself, you are just wasting space and oxygen that other people might have need of. At the very least if you checked the right box on your drivers license, somebody might get use of your organs. If you do kill yourself do not use pills, or something that would make those organs useless either.
Seriously whining sucks, it gets nothing done. It is rarely productive, and is the primary reason why people suck. So this is my solution, ergo why I am bitching, not whining, if you don't like something, offer a solution or shut the fuck up. When you offer a solution use your brain, and don't dream up some pig flying bullshit just so you can say you are not whining. If something does suck, and you have no solution, that is cool. Just say it sucks and move the fuck on. Chances are the people around you agree, will sympathize. However looking at how bad something sucks does not make it better, often times it just makes people more aware of the suck and makes it worse.
To sum it up, when in doubt, shut your cock holster. If you don't have anything to offer but your opinion, odds are its better to keep it yourself. You are not as important as you think you are, and people really don't give a fuck about what you do or don't like. We may pretend, if you are hot member of the sex we are attracted too, but its just pretend.
That being out of the way, I do have a topic. I just told you that stuff so when you see how this all comes out, you will understand my frame of mind and hopefully forgive me for the lack of a proof read. So I am going to hit with a rough stream of words, and see what sticks. If that doesn't work for you, well move the fuck on.
I just want to make it clear that whining is like worrying. It does nothing for you, except make you look like a bitch. Sure things suck. If they things didn't suck we would not have anything to compare the good things too. I am going too go out on a limb here and say that whining can serve a purpose of attracting attention to an issue, but its just whining if that is all you are doing. Pity parties are shitty parties. You can bitch, bitching means you are complaining about something and are offer to resolve it. Whining you are looking for others to either give you attention, sympathy, or resolve it for you.
Now I love fixing the problems that people whine about. Ninety nine point nine percent of the time they do not like it when I fix it either. If you are bitching about your car, I give you a bus schedule. If you complain about being hungry I tell you where the homeless shelter is. You complain about not having a love life, I had you a mirror, a scale, or a copy of your whiny ass on tape. Some people get all three.
Whiners typically end up alone. Like liars they learn to make friends quickly though. So they may deceive you at first. Whiners also tend to gaggle. You will see them roam the streets in packs, because nobody else wants to hang with their stupid emo asses. Seriously if life is that bad, kill yourself and let the rest of us move the fuck on. If you want everybody to do everything for you then kill yourself, you are just wasting space and oxygen that other people might have need of. At the very least if you checked the right box on your drivers license, somebody might get use of your organs. If you do kill yourself do not use pills, or something that would make those organs useless either.
Seriously whining sucks, it gets nothing done. It is rarely productive, and is the primary reason why people suck. So this is my solution, ergo why I am bitching, not whining, if you don't like something, offer a solution or shut the fuck up. When you offer a solution use your brain, and don't dream up some pig flying bullshit just so you can say you are not whining. If something does suck, and you have no solution, that is cool. Just say it sucks and move the fuck on. Chances are the people around you agree, will sympathize. However looking at how bad something sucks does not make it better, often times it just makes people more aware of the suck and makes it worse.
To sum it up, when in doubt, shut your cock holster. If you don't have anything to offer but your opinion, odds are its better to keep it yourself. You are not as important as you think you are, and people really don't give a fuck about what you do or don't like. We may pretend, if you are hot member of the sex we are attracted too, but its just pretend.
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