We often refer to some words so often that we forget their meaning. We over use them, or use them in the wrong content. For example "hero". So many people label people their hero's for one reason or another and forget to thing about the definition. Admiration alone does not a hero make. Today though I want to break down another word, character. What is it exactly?
Character is defined as 1.the aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing. 2.one such feature or trait; characteristic. 3.moral or ethical quality: a man of fine, honorable character. 4.qualities of honesty, courage, or the like; integrity: It takes character to face up to a bully. 5.reputation: a stain on one's character.
This means to me that a persons character is not defined by their words, but their actions. You can justify saying someone does or does not have character, or define their character in a negative light. I know people say I have a big mouth, but I would like to think I have the character to back up the words I spit out. Others show a weak character by slinging accusations and falsehoods to feed their own personal need for attention.
You know many people talk about the need for forgiveness. I say screw that. Forgiveness is something you can ask for when you are unwilling or unable to stand up and be responsible for your actions. A person of character need not ask for forgiveness, they just make amends if they need to. If you have a strong enough character then you should not be committing acts that would require either to begin with.
If the people around you understand your character enough, they also understand the intent behind your deeds and words. This is when you hear things like "no apology needed." Be true to yourself, in action and in speech and you can say that you have strong character. Having strong enough character also means you don't need to say that about yourself either.
I have found that you can dress yourself in as much bullshit as you like, and through the funk of your clothing, people will see the true you beneath. Your character can and will be measured. That being said, if forgiveness does not run in my job description, you can bet your ass that judgement does too. If you are found lacking, then you will also not find yourself among my friends either. I would prefer to associate with people of character, because they challenge me to be better. This also prevents toxic crazy ass people from tainting my chi.
So save the characters for the sit coms. Save the drama for your mama. Ask yourself are you the person you would call a hero? Are you the person you would want your children to be? If so good on you, and you my friend have character.