the whole truth and nothing but the truth?

There is a huge issue looming around that people do not seem to get. This could apply to all people, in all walks of life. It does not matter if it is politics or conversation with people you know. No matter the reason or the cause, there is a simply principle that adds much more weight to your cause. Half the truth is still a full fucking lie. If you are going to talk shit about somebody or something, try to get all the facts in there, or shut your damn mouth.

You have to look at things in context. You have to see all the facets of something. Screw seeing all the sides, because douche nozzles are douche nozzles even when telling you how they feel. Facts are facts though. For example lets look at a dead beat dad issue. Lets say you have a lady crying to the news and the cops that her ex husband does not pay child support? This one hits hard to home for some people. Well most people jump on the bad wagon, and call that guy a douche. He is labeled and people talk all kinds of trash. What you didn't know is the poor victim received the checks, but she never cashed them. To compound it she also refused him access to his child. Half the time she did cash them but they got spent on everything but the kid. Now who is the ass hat?

Typically those of poor character are looking for their movie check. You get estranged spouses collecting alimony when they are perfectly capable to work on their own. I hate that argument that they are entitled to the lifestyle they have grown accustomed too. Well if they love the lifestyle so damn much get a job and live it on your own, or stay with whomever you are married to. If you are divorcing that person it is saying you no longer want that lifestyle right? Yet I have seen people I know recently get called bad names because they are late on their extortion payments.

People jump on them when the “victim” only shares the truth they feel like sharing, not the whole truth . So the best way to deal with things is with the whole truth, or stay the fuck out of it. I also love when people twist or exaggerate “facts”. Hundreds become thousands. They mention failures to pay, but the forget to mention that the person that didn't pay them made attempts but they went into hiding. I love when people bitch about a boss when they fail to show up to work. I love when people say they got picked on and bullied, but they fail to tell you that they conveniently forgot to shower.

People play power games, and in doing so tell the worst kind of lies. They spread half truths. Those are the most dangerous, and the most cowardly. They have just enough truth to give them power, but they are absolute bullshit. Those people are rarely caught until its too late, and their fangs are deep in you. They find ways to get leverage over you, and then you lay down and become their bitch. How about this, you call them out, you take away their perceived power over you by telling the truth, the whole truth to whomever needs to hear it.

If you share the truth with those that deserve it, and live the truth in your life, those people never gain power over you. Those that seek power rarely deserve it. You keep yours and give it to those of your own free will. Yes those power grubbing low life's will still try to get it from you, because its hard work trying to get a free ride. Yes they will piss you off, and let them. You have a right to be angry, but do not cross that line and let them have power over you. Do not assault them if they can get power over you. Do speak out against them, and do the world a service. Make sure they are properly labeled for the snake oil salesmen they are. Do not let them poison you with their lies, and do not tolerate their half truths. Get all the facts, know the truth of a story.

The best part about it, your gut will tell you when you are right. If they are crazy typically you will know. That guy with a sweet tongue that gives you the creepy vibe is probably a creep. If that gutter whore telling you a sob story that sounds to shitty to be true, most likely is. If their story sounds worse then yours it might just be, but typically its also equal parts bullshit. If it seems to dramatic, it is probably drama. So trust your gut. This is why I like hanging with assholes, what you see is what you get, and its not just the half truth. You get every bit of that they see and even the shit you didn't want to see. So take the truth and take it all like a porn star. Do not suffer anything less then your full share.

A liar is a liar no matter what robes they wrap themselves in. A person always making friends typically needs to, because they lose them just as fast.


Post Script and completely off topic;
I want to say thank you too those of you that read this. This body of work is me putting my thoughts to words. It is a journal of who I am, and I have not shared a lot of these thoughts with people during my life. Most of friends know a good portion of it, but a rare few know the whole truth about me. Most people get what they want to know, or don't bother to ask for all of it. If you look through my past, most people will tell you I am drunk asshole that says crazy mean shit at the best possible time. I like to keep the real me hidden. Then one day, while ranting on my Facebook I realized that deeper me it pretty fucking cool and it was about time more people got to meet him. Even here this is not the whole me, but those of you that have followed me on this journey of making writing a job are seeing more then most people ever have. So I thank you for looking at my soul bared. I thank you for the support and kind words. Thank you.

Win, lose, or who gives a damn.

Nothing tells you more about a person then the simple act of doing something. You see in success you find out who are the leeches. You find those that cling to you for their life blood. You find you true friends, because they pat you on the back and expect nothing more then that privilege. Friends nothing from you, they want everything for you. So be successful and you will find some friends. The other side of the coin is failure. This is a another great test of the world. You fail and their will be those on you that twist the knife to make them feel better about themselves. They will remain smug and condescending because you validate them. You let them know that no one should try. They will take your failure and magnify it to the group of people they associate with. I dare say friends, since these people really do not know what a friend is. These are the vultures. Then from the vultures come your friends again. These are the ones offering a hand up. They want you back on your feet. They want you to try again, because they want you to be all that you can.

I am happy with my success's in life. I am pleased with my failures. The reason is they have helped me learn so much. I have learned that people will claim to be friends, they will claim to honor you and your trust, but then when you fail they will twist your words to suit their purpose. They will be vipers, and they will strike and strike, because they feel it is their purpose to try and keep you down. These are the people that will teach you your strength. It is because of them I get up. It is because of them I refuse to see the world in a narrow view. It is because of them I do not underestimate a single person. It is in spite of them I get up, dust off and go back to work.

I choose to share my life with my friends. Success and failure a like. I try to encourage my friends to find their own. It is in those received actions that you can really tell the person you are dealing with. You can really see what they do based on their deeds and efforts. Words can be twisted. Words can be dipped in honey to hide the poison. Words hold little value outside of the action they invoke. So go do something, measure your life and write your own story.

The best revenge is living well and knowing your enemies will die before you. Smile knowing they died before they even lived. So let them clamor for glamour and attention. Let them grip onto their youth and vanity. Let them wallow in their own self perceived grandeur, but never ever stop trying to be better. Do not be better then them to prove something to them, be better then them because you are. Count your friends like treasures, and guard them with your heart. All those other people, fuck them. They can choke on their own spite. Let them live their own lie, and you live your own life.

HIS story, HER story,

Today will be a little more lighthearted then my typical blog. First I want to thank all the people that have shared my blog over the last few months. You know pimping the links on Facebook and Twitter. It is due to that effort that this blog averages well over one hundred hits a day. The comments help more then people know. I find it great to get feed back as a writer. Not only do you find out if you got your point across, but you also discover varied views.

I had a talk with a young man in English class the other day. I asked him why he was going to college. He said he was going to get an education. The reason I asked him was because he stated he only read about one book a year if that. So in reply to this I asked him what does he hope to get out of his education. He said he wanted to learn more so he could get a better job. That is awesome, but I then told this young man my views on education. A large amount of skills you learn at school are perishable. If you want trade skills, and current ones, you should go to a vocational school. The difference between college and trade school, is that you are not getting a skill set, rather you are learning how to learn. You learn by perspective, and by reading you learn the perspective of others. That is the value of books, and the value of education.

I am not sure how much that conversation impacted that young man, but hearing myself say it fortified my own resolve. Yep I love reading. I love reading more then I love writing actually. It helps me learn to write, and I love to hear other peoples stories. I believe that it is the story that a person tells that is their true legacy. We all have a story and you can a lot about a person by their story. Its a measure that can't lie or be cheated, even if people do cheat and lie to make it better.

You see when we die the real legacy we leave behind is the story people tell about us when we die. Think about it, how many people that have died in your life time, or before your time. Maybe a relative that fought in the great war that you never met. Do family members tell you their story? Do people that never met them tell their story? If the story is cheated, or even peppered with lies, it shows the status that person holds in the family. The evolve into a status us icon, in the saga of your life.

The other part you can see is the value of the person by how much their story is theirs, or how the meddled in the life of others. Yep we have some villains and gossips in the family legacy. You can tell by looking at those stories and if they where done for people, with people, or to people. Then look at those traits in the surviving members of your family. That is the effect of legacy.

Now the question is what is your story. Do you have one to tell. Is it a short story or a epic? Have you looked for things to challenge the attention of those that hear it. Is it one moment that you pass on to your family generations from now. Maybe it is a chain of events that reflect a full and eventful life. How will you be seen when your great grand child is telling tales about you around the fire to their own grandchildren. That is immortality. So will you live in infamy or fame, it is in your hands. What impact will you have on your family.

You have to write your story every day. You have to challenge yourself to be the hero of your own story. Be the person you want your grandchildren's children to be. You are being watched and analyzed, maybe not now. There will be a time when your legacy will be setting around roasting marshmallows. Will they be talking about you, and will it be in a good light.

The Monkey in the middle, still flings poo

I know today is Saturday, but I am sure I missed one somewhere and need to make up the work. This will hopefully be worth it, and maybe just maybe let people see a glimpse into my mind. I would say my soul, but we all know I sold that for a doughnut a long long time ago. I want to also clarify that these are my thoughts and mine alone. You can borrow from them, but these are my thoughts and I take responsibility for them. I am not going to pawn them off on my friends, or hold my wife responsible for them. Yes this is how I really feel. If you don't like that, don't read it.

First I am going to say that I have found the weakest words in the human language. “I don't want to get involved.” Yep some weak sauce there. I will explain why, but I am going to assume I lost a few readers there. Now before I lose a few more of them, lets look at the statement and see what it means, and then do a little break down of human nature. I am sure I am going to piss a few people off with this, and I am going to be okay with that though. Those that I lose are probably not people I wanted hanging around anyway.

The statement clarifies the a person does not want to be placed into a situation. They do not wish to participate. “I do not want to get involved.” or other versions of it, is telling the person or persons on either side that they are not worth the speakers time. They are saying they would rather not deal with your issues. They are not saying you are wrong or right, they are saying you are just not worth their effort. In this statement they declare their fear of confrontation and their need for their world to never change. They are also devaluing their own opinion with this statement by saying its not worth stating.

The intent of this family of statements is to keep friends. It is meant to let people know on either side of an issue that you value them both. In reality you are telling those two parties that they are not worthy of choice, or you are to scared to make a damn choice. Yes scared to make the choice, because you might make the wrong one and fine yourself without friends.

I have to thank my brother for this quote, it really sums up a few things if you think about it; “A friend to all is a friend to none”- Aristotle. Now why is that? I mean really why can't you be friends to everyone? Well its because we are people. People see things different and there will always be conflict. Also you need to think of your definition of a friend. The same wise cat that gave me the quote defined friends as those persons he would help if they asked for it. Pretty simple. I like it, but I would go further and say that they would help you if you asked for it as well. Friendship is a two way street. So when you are casting someone aside by your inaction, are you throwing away or minimizing the value of a persons assistance? Some times that help might be dealing with another person, or not dealing with them. That being the case you would have to be in opposition of one of the people if you help or don't help, in which design you can't be friends to both of them at the same time.

The next thing that makes this impossible for me to grasp, is that we are judgmental. It is human nature. We judge all the fucking time even if we say we don't. Seriously think about it, do you have a favorite ice cream? How do you like your steak? What do you think of people who hump in movie theaters? How do you feel about Sarah Palin? How do you feel about the Solardyne issues in the news right now? What do you think happened on September 11th? All of those things represent choice based on your judgment. So embrace that human nature and get the fuck over yourself. Now that is out of the way we can get to work.

In a social situation where people you call friends are fighting, you try to stay out of it. You tell them both you don't want to get involved. The reality is you are just a chicken shit. You already made a judgment. You already know who you like more. You already played out who you think is right. Its human nature. Those two things might not be the same thing either. So rather then risk conflict people say they do not want to get involved. Then they either go about their business and show subtle indications of their choice right or wrong. They will continue to support one person, more then the other. They will even do this while telling others they don't care to get involved.

You know my friends list in real life gets smaller and smaller each day. It gets stronger and stronger while it does as well. Why is that? Well first I am not some candy ass soft shoe asshole that sits on the fence. I see conflict, and rather then insulting those involved I get make a choice. I weigh the people involved. I see who is the more honorable party. I look at the cause. I see where the conflict is. If I can't resolve it between my friends, then maybe there is an ethical issue to explore. If a person really wronged another then you side with the one that ways wronged? You look at what is right and wrong, not what gets you more attention, affection, or allows you to hide from conflict.

In doing this I find that I get better friends. I get friends with higher moral character. I get friends that stand by me, even when they have nothing to gain. I get a stronger family. Those that are of those friends do not go running if I tell them they are being a douche, or doing something wrong either. We talk it out, resolve the conflict, and if it can't be resolved we agree that we do not see eye to eye and drive the fuck on. By not staying out of the conflict you tell your friends you actually give a shit about them.

Picture this, you have a bud that is an addict. They are actively using. You don't want to get involved. That person continues to use, and they eventually OD, get killed in a deal, or just waste away to nothing. By not getting involved you tell that person they are not worth the effort. If you go to that person and say, “Yo man, your drug abuse has got to stop, or I can't hang with you.” They either get pissed and choose drugs over you, or they ask for help. Either way you let them know you cared enough to say something, and felt strong enough to make a stand.

So stay out of it and stay out of life. Enjoy your apathy. Issues are abound and I would rather hang with people that have opinion. To me people that have opinion and have made choices are smarter, and offer better conversation. I don't have to agree with them, but at least we have something to talk about out side of a rose colored view of the world they want to live in, with out doing any of the effort. You see people that choose also have a tendency to act. People who act actually change the world. The rest of those bitches are just along for the ride.

On her? Sure why not?

Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls gather around. I am going to give a heart felt look into my my own mind. Yes I am aggressive. I see something I like and I go after it will all of my being. I feel passion in all the things I do, or at least I try. My life has been full of moments of intensity. I would not change that at all. I think those moments of strong emotion burn memories into your soul. My soul is scarred. It is battered and well worn. There are things though that keep me from going off the deep end though, and prevent me from giving myself over to the beast like release. First is my family. Not my family of origin, but the family I have surrounded myself with. My village of choice if you would. Second is a code of honor. Rules and order implied on my personal choices in life.

So yes I have a narrow focus. If things are not good for my family they are not good. If things can not be done with honor, then they should not be done. A man can and should be measured by his word. It is the anchor that lets you give into emotion, but stay grounded in reality. It is my biggest motivation. I do what I feel is right by my country, my village, my family. I will sacrifice myself, or my own needs for those in those three groupings. It stops me from running over the edge.

Before I get into my issue here I will also define honor, since family was talked about in previous blogs. Many people confuse this as self esteem. It can drive self esteem but honor is much more then the self. It is an understanding of shared morality. It is the rules by which you can measure the worth of a person. It is doing the right thing regardless of what others think. It is keeping your word. It is not bringing shame to your family. Honor is the rules by which a community is held together. It is not something you trade like baseball cards, or bank. You either have it or you don't.

Now this brings me to my thoughts of the day. When your honor is questioned what do you do? I place value on the person doing the questioning first, and their value will figure in the amount of effort I wish to put into things. Those of lower regard piss me off more then others. Its a matter of pride, because who the fuck are they to question my honor when they don't have any themselves. It is also a more difficult battle to fight. Typically the best way to address things is with the truth. It is the sharpest of weapons. It speaks volumes for you, when you use the truth. If you can not use the truth then perhaps that person has a right to question your honor on that matter.

Right now though, I am dealing with an ass clown that uses lies to battle the truth. Trouble is this person is delusional and I think they believe their lies. It is even harder when the lies they use are crafted with a kernel of truth. So it makes it easy to support. I am not even sure why they decided to target me and mine. I am not sure what motivates a person to tear down somebody simply because they have what they want. Its akin to being in the desert and one person has water. The second person slaps the water out of the persons hand. Now neither have water. Rather then look for water of their own, or perhaps trade for the water, they would rather destroy it, and in the process destroy them both.

The warrior in my heart says track her down and split her from ass to mouth. When words are not going to prevent an assault then you eliminate the person on the other side of the assault and remove their ability to fight. How ever it is that same honor that she slanders that prevents me from doing that. I do not break the laws of my country for personal gain. It is my honor and the honor of my family that saves this woman. It is against the law to kill people for lies, or for being a conspiratorial bitch. Drama is not a death warrant. They get to live with themselves and that should be enough right?

Well its not.

Not to me anyway. I seethe everyday I know that person is out there spreading lies and weakness like an STD. I could go with the typical response form people, and put my head in the sand. If it does not affect me directly why should I be concerned after all? I could ignore issues and not claim one side or the other, because it would be too much work to engage in conflict. I could walk away. This is why so many people stand alone though. Everybody walks away and they let the problems grow until the overcome them. Then they find themselves fighting alone, because everybody else walked away. I love my family to much. So fuck it. Let this crazy bitch say what she will about me, but I will not walk away. I will not tolerate her existence. I will not tolerate her attacks on my friends and family.

In that I will hold my friends accountable too. If they decided not to make a choice I will make it for them. I will not attend events, parties, or any other social event that you invite these substandard people to. If that means you do not invite me, outstanding. At least you made a choice. You also made it easy for me to fill out holiday cards. If I see that person I will call them out every time I see them. Every person will know them for what they are. If people think I am crazy for it, well good for them. I would rather be crazy then a shiftless person with no family or honor. I would rather be alone then a coward. You don't have to meet my maker for me, and I would rather do that with who I am intact. I would rather do that and say I am proud that I did not put up with peoples shit because it was easy.

On her? Sure why not?

Ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls gather around. I am going to give a heart felt look into my my own mind. Yes I am aggressive. I see something I like and I go after it will all of my being. I feel passion in all the things I do, or at least I try. My life has been full of moments of intensity. I would not change that at all. I think those moments of strong emotion burn memories into your soul. My soul is scarred. It is battered and well worn. There are things though that keep me from going off the deep end though, and prevent me from giving myself over to the beast like release. First is my family. Not my family of origin, but the family I have surrounded myself with. My village of choice if you would. Second is a code of honor. Rules and order implied on my personal choices in life.

So yes I have a narrow focus. If things are not good for my family they are not good. If things can not be done with honor, then they should not be done. A man can and should be measured by his word. It is the anchor that lets you give into emotion, but stay grounded in reality. It is my biggest motivation. I do what I feel is right by my country, my village, my family. I will sacrifice myself, or my own needs for those in those three groupings. It stops me from running over the edge.

Before I get into my issue here I will also define honor, since family was talked about in previous blogs. Many people confuse this as self esteem. It can drive self esteem but honor is much more then the self. It is an understanding of shared morality. It is the rules by which you can measure the worth of a person. It is doing the right thing regardless of what others think. It is keeping your word. It is not bringing shame to your family. Honor is the rules by which a community is held together. It is not something you trade like baseball cards, or bank. You either have it or you don't.

Now this brings me to my thoughts of the day. When your honor is questioned what do you do? I place value on the person doing the questioning first, and their value will figure in the amount of effort I wish to put into things. Those of lower regard piss me off more then others. Its a matter of pride, because who the fuck are they to question my honor when they don't have any themselves. It is also a more difficult battle to fight. Typically the best way to address things is with the truth. It is the sharpest of weapons. It speaks volumes for you, when you use the truth. If you can not use the truth then perhaps that person has a right to question your honor on that matter.

Right now though, I am dealing with an ass clown that uses lies to battle the truth. Trouble is this person is delusional and I think they believe their lies. It is even harder when the lies they use are crafted with a kernel of truth. So it makes it easy to support. I am not even sure why they decided to target me and mine. I am not sure what motivates a person to tear down somebody simply because they have what they want. Its akin to being in the desert and one person has water. The second person slaps the water out of the persons hand. Now neither have water. Rather then look for water of their own, or perhaps trade for the water, they would rather destroy it, and in the process destroy them both.

The warrior in my heart says track her down and split her from ass to mouth. When words are not going to prevent an assault then you eliminate the person on the other side of the assault and remove their ability to fight. How ever it is that same honor that she slanders that prevents me from doing that. I do not break the laws of my country for personal gain. It is my honor and the honor of my family that saves this woman. It is against the law to kill people for lies, or for being a conspiratorial bitch. Drama is not a death warrant. They get to live with themselves and that should be enough right?

Well its not.

Not to me anyway. I seethe everyday I know that person is out there spreading lies and weakness like an STD. I could go with the typical response form people, and put my head in the sand. If it does not affect me directly why should I be concerned after all? I could ignore issues and not claim one side or the other, because it would be too much work to engage in conflict. I could walk away. This is why so many people stand alone though. Everybody walks away and they let the problems grow until the overcome them. Then they find themselves fighting alone, because everybody else walked away. I love my family to much. So fuck it. Let this crazy bitch say what she will about me, but I will not walk away. I will not tolerate her existence. I will not tolerate her attacks on my friends and family.

In that I will hold my friends accountable too. If they decided not to make a choice I will make it for them. I will not attend events, parties, or any other social event that you invite these substandard people to. If that means you do not invite me, outstanding. At least you made a choice. You also made it easy for me to fill out holiday cards. If I see that person I will call them out every time I see them. Every person will know them for what they are. If people think I am crazy for it, well good for them. I would rather be crazy then a shiftless person with no family or honor. I would rather be alone then a coward. You don't have to meet my maker for me, and I would rather do that with who I am intact. I would rather do that and say I am proud that I did not put up with peoples shit because it was easy.

The price of right.

When did it happen in our culture that the prom king and queen would dictate our sense of right and wrong? Seriously, when did doing the right thing become a popularity contest? To many times we find ourselves looking at some injustice, or some blatant act of moral disgust. When we do, people tend to look at the people involved, rather then the issue. We either stay out of something because we feel it is safer that way, I mean we would not want to hurt someone's feelings right? Or we over react because we do not like the person on the other side of the issue.

I have tried to base my opinion of people on where I see them on the subject of right and wrong. If you lie, or are know to lie, I really don't have much use for you. I don't care if you are sexy, powerful, or can do something to make my life easy. It is what it is. If you use your charisma to sway people against someone and you use subterfuge or manipulation to do it, does that mean you are now doing the popular right thing now? Seriously when did this happen?

If someone you have an issue with was wronged, I mean wronged and it was so far from right that you can see it through your loathing. What do you do? Do you support that injustice, because you think its karma in action? I am just curious how many times you have made choices to stand on the side lines or to support something, simply because you did not like the person the other side.

This is not a new concept by any means. We as a people vote on everything. Abortion right or wrong is decided by vote. The death penalty is voted on if you believe in it or not. We let popular opinion sway or own moral compass all the time. Look at religion. People often refer to the strength of their beliefs by the shear number of people that follow their faith. Mega churches are all over the country. It is almost as if the more people we can sway to our train of thought the righter it is.

So if I start a campaign to declare the sun rotates around the earth, can I make it true if I get enough people to agree with me? It just bothers me so much. We see attempts at this all the time. Intelligent design still has supporters. People strap bombs to themselves for ideals, and commit the ultimate wrong on other people. They do this even if those they directly affect where not even involved in the first place.

Somethings are black and white as right and wrong, yet people convince people of the the righteousness of their evil all the time. People justify things like the abuse of others, the defamation of character, or even murder of a person. They get away with it, or even gather support as long as they are popular or can use popular ideas to get what they want. That to me is sad.

In a recent event in my own life, I saw a friend get trashed by others. Why did this happen? Well one person that lead the most recent battle cry, decided to seek revenge. She was called out by my friend for being a money grubbing vindictive hooker. In truth that is exactly what she was. She made claims on things she had no right too, and still does, because of her hatred of someone she once claimed to love. Now she could not get back at my friend directly, so she started planting seeds with a poisoned tongue dipped in honey. With no proof she started whispering in the ears of all she could get alone, about how this lady was a liar and thief. She never once came out to publicly accuse her, because that is the way of cowards and liars. Lies rarely survive the light of day.

Now others saw this happening. Rather then call her out on her lies, they supported the her. They stayed away from my friend. They did not validate the lies, but they did say they COULD be true. I am not sure if it was because they wanted them to be true, or they didn't care. They did not like this other person, my friend, so they fed the beast. Then we her coworkers in a charity started to believe the lies, because so many whispered them, though they could not be true. Proof was available to vindicate my friend, and not one shred of proof to incriminate her was available. Yet people bought into them.

Why is this? Popularity. Its easy to do the socially right thing, but its lonely on the higher moral ground. So people do not like to stand by their convictions if it leaves them alone. I say fuck that. If it is right, it is right. You stand by it, or you lay down like a hooker and just take what life gives you. Popularity is not how you make real friends. If that was the case Barbie would be happy, because you can buy that chica all the friends she could use.

So maybe I am wrong in this, but I am standing by it either way. You can try to convince me with facts, but do not try to sway me with sweet words. Just because a thousand people believe it, does not make it true. Truth lays in the results.