In our life we all communicate. To get
food we talk to those around us. To gain shelter we talk to those
around us. We work to gain income so that we can take care of the
warm dry full that makes up the absolute basics of life. No matter
how much of a hermit you are, you will be required to communicate at
least a few times in your life. This is a skill that should be as
simple as breathing, yet most people are so wrapped up in their own
disconnection that lack this basic of basic abilities. We get so
jumbled in the consumer based world that I could eat alphabet soup
and puke, what is on the floor is more effective communication than
most people would have to offer.
There are some basic things that you
have to consider when talking with people, and none of them are
manners. Manners can help in social situations, but they are not the
tools you need to get what you want out of life. Even there though
people are lacking, and by not using proper manners they fail to see
the social nuances and what they sacrifice with each yo and um they
have. It is not about manners but a project of respect. Your body
language, your choice of words, and all the other subtle parts of
communication convey a message that you might not want to project.
Bottom line is if you convey a lack of self respect, why the hell
should I offer you any?
The biggest issue people have with
this, is that they fail to recognize the baser instincts of the
people around them, and in their own minds. We are pack or herd
animals. We are submissive to those that project that alpha
mentality. We may not like it, but we do things for people simply
because we perceive them as in charge. These things are forced upon
in ways that we often ignore. Simple things like a handshake, or a
hug, sit the tone to start conversations. Placing your hand over
another persons give you the upper hand. Clasping a hand in your own
offers you a subtle level of dominance as well. Putting a hand on
someones shoulder, or a pat when you hug triggers simple instincts
that put you in the role of a parent. Little things like this that
are a huge part of the process of communication and often ignored.
We ignore the organic flow of
communication and replace it with LOL or other overused pieces of
modern pop culture. So many words have lost their meaning in our
modern tribal view of things. Please and thank you are replaced with
mine and gimme. Like I said its not the manners, but the subtle
meaning behind them that matter. You want to make someone feel
inferior, use manners and speak in clear enunciated English. If you
speak in a more professional manner than with whom you are talking
too, than you will have the upper hand in social situations as well.
Why is this important? Well how many
times in your life are you walked over? How many times have you been
passed over for a job? With these things you need to find a balance
though, because if you are too dominate people will avoid you, if you
are to weak of a communicator you will be pawns for others. Being
self made, well spoken also means you have a healthy psychological
foundation for which you can build a healthy psychological
foundation. This incidentally leads to happiness. This is also a damn
good way to pick up chicks.
Now once you get this aspect you can
move into the next life lesson, and learn the value and purpose of
effective communication. This is to express a goal, or to transfer
information from one party to another. So in transferring information
or intent with people you find that you get the things you need or
desire. If you find a balance between domination and talking down to
people, people will have a natural desire to actually follow you.
Its like being a dog whisperer with the sheeple of the world.
This is the nice way of saying put your
hat on right, and pull you damn pants up. I am not your dog, and if
you call me that you should expect to be treated like a dog. If I
call you a fuck faced douche nozzle, then it is because you told me
the level of respect you deserve with your craptastic communication
skills. If I stop talking to you, it also shows my level of respect
for your intelligence, or lack there of. In a doomsday prepper
scenario this action would probably be joined with a particular set
of physical ques, like me thumbing the safety off my weapon and
relieving you of your supplies. With that have a nice day and stop
acting like a douche.
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