I am gonna go out on a limb here and
revisit an old topic. You see we have a problem, or at least we
perceive a problem and choose to give this problem weight. This
problem is nothing new. It is something that is as old as the idea of
a village. It is the anthropological way we establish the pecking
order in the animal mind. Now we are familiar with it as the
socialization of our children, and that typically is resolved with
bullying. There are ways to get rid of it though, and evolve. So what
do you want to do about it and what are you willing to do about it?
The solution lies in exposing our
children to reality. First you start with the bullies. They are only
trying to do what we teach them. They are trying to get ahead of the
pack. They are trying to build a order with them on the top. They
want what we all want, they want to be in the best position to live a
better life for themselves. Trouble is they do not understand that
the positive shit in high school rarely leaves high school, but the
negative shit comes out for a life time. Yet you will see the guy
sitting in a bar years later talking about the touchdown in the
homecoming game that did nothing for him beyond those four years of
his life. That hot little cheerleader that is so important in school
is going to wind up with stretch marks and battle scars, and that
type of beauty fades.
We get so wrapped up in the shit that
doesn't matter, that our children emulate this in the attempt to act
"grown up". The surround themselves with the things they
think will make them popular, rather than think about what it takes
to be a good human being. Stuff breaks and physical beauty does not
last the test of time. In that the emphasis on the physical only
sends the message of physical satisfaction to our children. While I
have nothing against sex, and nothing against sex for entertainment
value alone, I do see an issue with that being the sole image of
gratification. When you fixate on the physical that is exactly what
you get, hormonal teen aged irresponsible baby factory's looking for
the new Ipad.
So the status that comes with fixation
on stuff breeds contempt. This contempt brings silly concepts of
competition that we carry with us into our adult life. Then we
transfer these silly beliefs over to our children and start the cycle
anew. It takes us years to get rid of these misconceptions of
happiness, if we ever do. Then we tell our children if you are not
first your last. We tell them they have to be top dog, or strive to
be the top dog and they fight to get ahead of the pack. They forget
the pack, and only think about being in front of it. The pressure is
enough that occasionally it will make a diamond, but most times it
just leaves a broken child that is thrust into adult life.
Now the other side of this is those
that are bullied. This children that are taught the same consumer
values but do not measure up to the standards we set for them. They
are the pack, or those that set outside the pack. They devalue
themselves because they do not measure up to the image we have
painted for success. They rarely finish first in that race, however
their talents are else where. They can finish first in their own
race, and do not need that social validation. Yet we tell them they
do, or in some cases we tell them they are not good enough. They
valid the cruel words of children and let those words strap weights
on their back. This weight they will carry into adulthood if they do
not crack under pressure.
The beauty of it is simple, those that
do not break typically develop an unhealthy self esteem and drive
through using their smarts or cunning. Those washed out high school
has been's typically end up working for them. That is if they don't
kill themselves or others before that happens. The trouble is they
are still fixated on this perceived standard we have set as a society
and even though they attain a level of success they are still broken
and hollow. So its a lose lose scenario. Reality fucking sucks huh?
You are all thinking this as a well. I am sure many of you can see
this pointless evolution and waste of time to rally to a cause that
we only offer a band aid for.
You want to put an end to bullying, try
this; Raise your kids to be independent. Raise you children to
understand expectations are important, but only theirs are. Teach
them that other peoples standards are just that,other peoples
standards and possible just shallow reflections of consumer weakness.
Teach them they know their own happiness and it is not found in
playing the damn game. They are who they are and beautiful in their
own way. You do this by, holy fucking shit guy, being a good damn
parent. You need to fix yourself and set the example. You need to let
yourself be happy, and understand the responsibility you have with
your PERSONAL freedom. Money does not buy happiness, beauty is skin
deep, and life has more to offer if you know what to look for.
Most important is for you to stop being
a fucktard, and start sitting the right example. Until people stop
celebrating the shallow crap in the gene puddle, we will always have
bullies. We breed the damn culture every time we stand in line for
some new gadget. We do this when we celebrate commercialism and lose
our focus on what it really means to be free. We all have the right
to pursue our OWN happiness. So stop chasing some other persons
concept of happiness and start looking for your own. Teach that skill
to your kids, and you find that bullies have no more power then you
give them. Indifference is your greatest immunity to their poison.
You also find it is easier to fight for what you believe in, when you
figure out what the fuck you believe in.
So stop begging for the government to
fix this for you. The issue is resolved through you and by you, not
through some internet campaign with catchy posters or slogans. That
is how you advertise, and learning from advertising is part of the
damn problem. So stop being sheep and learn to think for yourself.
Teach your kids to do the same shit, and it might catch on. Either
way bullies will no longer be your problem, and stupid people will be
left to deal with it on their own.
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