Okay people I want to make something perfectly clear. I am strong minded, strong willed person. Yes I have a wife. I have a family. I have great friends. I have a strong sense of community. However I am still an individual. I speak my mind. I speak my heart. I tell people what I think of them when I need too. If you do not want to hear something don't ask me about it. If you look fat in jeans, I am going to tell you that running a few miles might make them look better. If you are being a window licking smacktard, that is exactly what I am going to tell you.
Saying that I want you to understand that this is my voice. These are my thoughts. This is who I am. While I do share my life with people that I love, like my wife. I am not her mouth piece. While I will speak out for my friends I do not speak for my friends. My opinion and my decisions are mine. They do not belong to anybody else.
Why am I sharing this with you? Its simple. Smart people have probably already figured it out. I stand behind what I say. Going to my wife or friends and telling them to put a lease on me or a muzzle lets me knwo you have no fucking clue how the real world works. These are my words I own them. If you have a problem with what I say, take it up with me. If not shut your cock holster.
If I have a problem with you, you know it. I address you. I let people know how I feel. I do not ask your friends or family to reign you in. I might ask them if you are going to be at an event they invited me too, and then I will decide on my own if I want to attend. I wear big boy pants. I stand up fine on my own.
I choose to let certain people in my life because they make my life better, and I walk my path with them. They do not NEED me, and I do not NEED them. A few years into this life my mother weened me off the tit. A few years later I was broken of grabbing the skirt hem. I know how to walk on my own, and I know how to talk on my own. I do not talk in shadows. I do not hide my feelings. I also do not let my feeling hide or control me.
You can talk to my wife about me. You can talk to my friends about me. Asking them to curb me though is retarded. If they even tried they know that they would not be my friends. I do not attempt to censor or control my friends. Why? Because they are my friends, not my allies. I form bonds not alliances. I do not have pets, and I expect they think the same way I do about that.
With that out there, do my friends ever tell me to chill? Sure they do, but not because some spineless twit got their feelings hurt. They have their own voice and they are free to use it around me. I will do the same for them. If I have spinach in my teeth I expect my wife to say something before we go out. I would do the same for her. That is what people do when they love each other.
To sum it up in case its not clear. I own my actions. I own my words. If you have issues with them, take them up with ME. Not my wife. Not my friends. Not my family. If you don't have the spine to do it, then maybe its not worth being said. If you are afraid of the reaction to the words you want to say, maybe they are not that important to you. If you are not willing to face the consequences to your actions then maybe you shouldn't engage in those actions.