Its driving me nuts that so many people think they have the solutions for everybody but their life is shit. People offering parenting advice when their kids are screaming lunatics or worse. People offering financial advise and they can't pay their own bills. Oh and all those people that tell you about your relationships when they have a turnstile for a door in their life. If you have been divorced six times it does not make you a master of love, it makes you a subject matter expert on divorce.
To compound that further even if you have done something multiple times does not mean you did it right. Take that cat that got divorce six times. Did they get taken to the cleaners each time? If they didn't lose anything was it becasue they really had nothing left to lose? You can learn from them, but probably not from their advice unless it really is about what not to do.
To me intelligence is learning from your own mistakes. Wisdom is the ability to learn from the mistakes of others. In this world most people struggle with intelligence and give into the definition of insanity. If it didn't work one way, do it over and over again the same way is not going to help. People caught in loops are not good sources of advice even if they tell you they are. They are as mad as a hatter, and not in the good way.
There is also two sides of this coin. Just because you think you know how to do something does not mean you have to share it with the world. You found something that worked for you, great. That does not mean you have the right or responsibility to share it with anyone that is unfortunate to come within arms reach of you. I am a firm believer advice should be asked for, and interventions are not as good if the target is not receptive.
If you really want to be an advice columnist take that advice from Dear Abby. People ask for her advice. She does not send random emails to people telling them how to live their lifes. They go to her. Be Abby if you really feel you need to offer advice, and you feel you really have learned enough from life that you have the right to screw with other peoples life.
The best way to do this is to do what I call the ideal approach to parenting. Be the person you want your kids to be. If you want your kids to be successful, show them how. You want your kids to be respectful, show people respect. You want your children to use manners, you do so in all aspects of your life. You want your kids to grow up healthy, stop shoveling crap into your throat and go out and get active. In essence stop being the fucktard you are, and be that cool ass cat you want them to think you are.
Then if you are that person people may come to you for advice, or maybe a genetic donation. You might even find success in those other areas of your life by default. So stop trying to fix other people, and fix yourself. Nobody likes it when a douche bag shares. Don't be a douche.
The reason for this is that I have gotten good advice from people recently about my writing. I noticed that those that gave me the advice told me what worked for them. They are actually good at what they do. They also offered suggestions. I asked for most of them. Few tidbits passed my way unsolicited. I also did not go to people that struggled to throw their work at people.
I understand you have to pimp your work, but also don't quit your day job. I took the advice to write this blog so I can see if I can really write all the day time like its a job. I am enjoying it for the most part writing everyday. Now I also write more after this, also learning that I can do work writing and still have the energy to write what I want after. That is good advice. This came from somebody who is successful in this industry.
At the end of the day, you have a brain use it. If you brain sucks figure out how too use a smart dudes brain. Most people know that if you feel bad about something it is probably bad. If you are scared that is not the same as feeling bad. Last but not least, if you take financial advice from a broke ass bum, don't cry when you see your wallpaper turn to cardboard. Yay Fannie Mae.
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